Hi,
I cheated on my boyfriend with my lecturer who got me a good job which caters for all our bills since my boyfriend doesn't have a job.
He recently found my nudes that I sent to the lecturer and he hasn't talked to me for a week.
The silent treatment is killing me 😭.
How do I fix this?
Hurt girl.
Our response:
Write him a letter explaining everything and the reasons for your actions.
In the letter, encourage him to respond with a letter so that you know how he feels.
We've been dating for 2 years.
Our families have met and all the necessary introductions and wedding preparations concluded.
We organized and planned the wedding together.
However, I received a call last week from a lady who is his colleague claiming that she is heavily pregnant with his child. She said she felt so guilty and couldn't allow me to be with a liar because he told her he would leave me for her.
Now I am stressed. Been crying all day and even took a week off from work to process everything.
I am so heartbroken 💔😭.
Our response:
Sorry for what you are going through. It's truly difficult to understand that kind of betrayal from a potential lifetime partner.
2 options:
- Cancel the wedding and move on. Save yourself from more harm, lies and infidelity in the future.
- Continue with the nuptials and live your entire life insecure and wondering if he's repeating the same to someone else. All this at the expense of your inner peace and happiness.
The Secret Space is a safe space for anyone who would like to share their story or dilemma anonymously.
Feel free to email your story or dilemma to letstalkblog2015@gmail.com
We will respond.
Hello...
I graduated 3 years ago and I was so excited to get started at life.
3 years later, no job and age is catching up with me. My mates have moved on, some are married others already started families while I'm still job-hunting.
I am very depressed and my self esteem is at the lowest.
Please advice. What can I do?
Our response:
Firstly, getting a job is not the only way to financial stability.
Besides skills learnt from years of school education, tap into your innate skills. What are you naturally good at? Writing, teaching, seeking adventure to new places, start a business, run errands for people, cook, offer styling tips?
All these skills are marketable. To make money, you must think outside the box.
Put your mind to work every morning by asking yourself: "How can I make money?"
The brain is wired to solve problems and figure things out.
The key to your financial stability is inside you. Unlock it.
The Secret Space is a safe space for anyone who would like to share their story or dilemma anonymously.
Feel free to email your story or dilemma to letstalkblog2015@gmail.com
We will respond.
Next issue:
My wedding is next week and I just found out that my boyfriend has impregnated his co-worker.
I am so heartbroken 💔
Please help!
Had an argument with my boyfriend and he blocked me. Then I found out that my mom is his sugar mummy.
What should I do? 😭😭
Our response:
If you can get out of that place and go to a relative or friend or just move out... Do it. Your mind and heart need some time out or else you might end up doing something you will regret for the rest of your life.
The Secret Space is a safe space for anyone who would like to share their story or dilemma anonymously.
Feel free to email your story or dilemma to letstalkblog2015@gmail.com
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Next issue:
I graduated 3 years ago and haven't gotten a job.
Honestly, I'm depressed.
Please help! 😩
Hi,
Thank you for this platform. So glad I can open up and not feel judged.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and things have been great.
However, a few weeks ago he asked if we could spice up our sex life by trying a threesome.
I didn't mind because I've never had one so I was all in.
He continued to say that he wanted it to consist of 2 men and a female while I would be the one to sit and watch.
What sort of spicing up is this? How am I supposed to enjoy this?
I love him though. What should I do?
Our response:
Hello... Thank you for reaching out. You are in the right safe space.
Communication is key. Talk to him and find out why he wants that then let him know how it makes you feel. If it makes you uncomfortable, don't do it.
The Secret Space is a safe space for anyone who would like to share their story or dilemma anonymously.
Feel free to email your story or dilemma to letstalkblog2015@gmail.com
We will respond.
Hi,
Thanks for creating this section. I can finally get this off my chest.
I hate my parents. Sometimes I wish I wasn't born.
My parents are toxic. For the most part of my life, they've spent it tearing me down. Nothing I do is good enough.
I feel like I'm the black sheep of the family. I have 2 siblings but seems like they're treated better than me and this has lowered my self esteem.
The words they say hurt me alot. There was a time I was in my room just listening to music. My mother walked in and said, "If you keep listening to that music, you'll be useless like your father."
I cried alot that night. This isn't the only instance. I'm a high performing student but my parents don't even appreciate it at all. When I show them my excellent performance, they just frown as opposed to when my siblings show them theirs. They are given more attention and congratulated on their performance.
I am now in college but I'm very depressed. I take alot of drugs to numb my pain. I've attempted suicide twice. My friends think I'm just getting high for fun and they cheer me on. I just go with it because atleast it makes me feel good and celebrated for something in my life.
Although, deep down I'm scared of this dark hole I'm spiraling into.
Please help! 😭
Depressed student.
Our response:
Thank you for reaching out and opening up to us. You have made the first step to solving the problem.
We have to commend you on your excellent school performance. Keep it up! Your brilliance will take you to great places.
About your parents... Nobody chooses parents but as an individual, you have the freedom to choose who you become.
You are a result of your associations. Seems like you already know what type of friends you have.
The Secret Space is a safe space for anyone who would like to share their story or dilemma anonymously.
Feel free to email your story or dilemma to letstalkblog2015@gmail.com
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Next issue:
Hi,
My boyfriend wants a threesome not FFM but MMF and he wants me to watch.
Should I be worried?
Undecided girlfriend.
Hi,
I'm torn between my lesbian lover and sugar daddy! 😩
I met my sugar daddy before I met my lesbian boo.
Sugar daddy is good to me but he is barely available.
My lesbian boo gives me attention and satisfies me sexually.
I love them both but I'm afraid that my sugar daddy may find out and will withdraw all financial support including shutting down the business he opened for me.
What do I do?
Our response:
Attention and affection feel great when they come from someone you are genuinely attracted to. That seems like it's your lesbian boo.
Your sugar daddy comes with great benefits which you can use to develop yourself financially.
Final take ... Follow your heart but tag your brains along.
The Secret Space is a safe space for anyone who would like to share their story or dilemma anonymously.
Feel free to email your story or dilemma to letstalkblog2015@gmail.com
We will respond.
Next issue:
I hate my parents. Sometimes, I wish I wasn't born.
Please help!
*FIDA Kenya - "Federación Internacional dé Abogadas" which translates to "International Federation of Women Lawyers"
It is the premier women's rights organization in Kenya which for over 32 years has offered free legal aid to over 320,000 women and their children. The matters range from custody and maintenance, matrimonial disputes, discrimination in employment, participation in public positions and sexual violence. (Source: Google.com)
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