My Self-Care Resolutions For 2022

By Abida Progga

New year resolutions equals setting great annual goals to fulfill. I know that you all have different goals already and you're working towards them. Just like you all, I also have some specific goals related to self care and in today's article I am going to share my top 5  self care resolution goals and the purpose behind them.

 

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1. Making my friend circle small but real : 

For the past few years, I have been focusing on growing my friend circle. I thought that, the more friends I have, the happier I can be. But, it was an entirely wrong presumption. 

The fact is, the size of your friend circle never matters. If you have thousands of friends who are not actually that genuine, then you're never going to be happy. But, if you have only 1 genuine friend who understands you, feels you, helps you and encourages you, then believe me you're going to feel like the happiest person in the world. 

So, this year my first focus will be cutting down all the unreal friends and having some true friendships around me.

 

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2. Learning to cook and eating healthy:

I can never explain how terrible my year went for having a bad eating habit! I never felt the necessity of eating home made foods. So, I never learnt even the ABC of cooking. Even when there was a lock down, I was ordering food from outside. I am not saying that those foods are bad. But, trust me homemade foods are always special and best of all.

 

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3. Having a good budget:

Trust me or not, having a good budget may save your life. On the other hand, having a bad idea about home budgeting may kill you. Last year, I had gotten so accustomed with online shopping that I was buying 2-3 unnecessary things every week. 

For instance, I was buying tons of clothes and shoes even though I knew that I was having enough of them in my closet. But guess what, I didn't care and one day I discovered that I had broken the bank.

 So, my suggestion will be, even though online shopping is quite cheap and trendy nowadays that comes with loads of advantages, but it's important to note that you should never buy a single thing unnecessarily when you have enough of it. Because, in the end, a good budget will save your life.

 

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4. Reading more books:

Since you belong to this generation, you may have already been influenced by social media to believe that reading books is so easy!! But, believe me it's not. 

Reading books doesn't mean only turning pages. It requires a minimal focus to understand what you're actually reading. I have been trying to read at least 1 book a month for a long time, but for various reasons, still I haven't been able to do so. 

So, having a proper reading habit is going to be my very first priority for this year.

 

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5. Learning a new language:

Learning a new language feels like an unexpected achievement. But only those language learners know how painful it is! 

Having a consistent schedule and the courage will be the first things you will need to have, especially when you're a beginner. 

You may get inspired by yourself or by people around you. But, the obstacle comes from having a consistent schedule. I have been trying to learn Arabic for over a year. But the fact is, I could only learn those alphabets and I still can't remember the last time when I took a move to learn Arabic. It sounds hilarious but I am sure that it's also a true lifestyle of many current language learners like me.

 So, learning the language is going to be one of my biggest goals!!

 

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That was all for today's article and also about my goals. Let me know in the comments about your thoughts regarding the post. Let us know about your self care resolution goals too. If you liked then please share it. "Sharing is caring"

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Writer's bio:

My name is Abida Islam Progga and I am an ambitious girl form a little town of Bangladesh.

 I am a college student and I enjoy blogging as a part time job. From my early childhood, I have desired to be creative and to do something that will help people make their lives beautiful. 

 The COVID-19 pandemic inspired me to go for what I want.

 I saw my friends pandemic, even some of them became video creators and went viral. Their success was making me envious and finally I liberated myself and let myself do what I really want. I love writing. It gives me mental peace. At first, I was confused about what to write. I tested on some things and finally figured out that personal development is the niche that I am the most passionate about.

Blog link:

The Incredible Variety

https://theincrediblevariety013.blogspot.com/

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3 Tips for Creating Affirmations and Intentionally Manifesting

By K Rei Alexander

(Feature Image—girl in yoga pose)

"You're telling me that my thoughts make things happen that I can't see?" 

-Richard, The Jackrabbit Factor by Leslie Householder 

As I was leaving for initial training to become a flight attendant 4 years ago, my friend 'Meerah gave me a list of affirmations she'd printed for me to keep me encouraged while I was away. I remember glancing over them as my flight took off to connect through Washington Dulles to my company's headquarters and then tucking them away in my ron-bag. I did not reach for this list again until months later. 

I honestly didn't know much about affirmations back then. Outside of being taught to pray daily, I had no idea that I could speak over my life or how repeating affirmations could positively affect my daily mood. 

What Are Affirmations?

If you google the definition of Affirmations, you'll find that the word means: "the action or process of affirming something or being affirmed." 

Similarly, when you hear people speak of daily affirmations, they typically mean that they are repeating positive statements to themselves until it is ingrained in their subconscious and becomes their reality. I like how Rebecca Hawkes phrases her definition over at rebeccalucyh.com

She says that "When we repeat a statement to ourselves that we want to be true, over time, we start to believe it because our subconscious can't distinguish between the truth and a lie. That statement then becomes our reality." 

Regardless of your spiritual or religious affiliation—or lack thereof—you will likely find it therapeutic to speak positively over yourself and your life. 

How to Create Affirmations 

It starts with you. Your wants, your desires, your visions, and your dreams. But it's more than just thinking or writing down what you want. A colleague shared a book with me a few years ago called The Jackrabbit Factor by Leslie Householder. 

This book helped me understand how to word my affirmations the old fashion way—through a story. I learned how affirmations encourage the subconscious and become the foundation upon which we can manifest our desires. Most importantly, I learned the importance of being intentional in everything that I do. 

There's this misconception that as long as you are vigorously affirming and manifesting your desires, they will magically fall in your lap, and your luck will change overnight. 

Sure, consistency is key, BUT HONEY HONEY HONNNEEEE... you have to do the work too! 

Below I named the basics I follow when creating new affirmations. 

1. Write it down! 

When writing your affirmations, my advice is to be direct, intentional and write them in the present tense. 

For example, if you have been saying/thinking "I will succeed," try "I am succeeding." 

Instead of "I wish I were in school," try "I am enrolled in school and actively engaging in my courses." 

2. Visualize what you write 

Some folks may tell you to be realistic. Who am I to tell you that your hopes and dreams are not realistic? Instead, I encourage being intentional so that you see yourself living and doing the things you are affirming when you visualize what you've written. 

I have a list of affirmations that I say at least once daily. When I say them, I try to see myself living the life and doing the things I'm describing. 

I try to visualize as often as possible, especially while meditating or during my self-healing Reiki sessions. But I even find myself dazing out while watering my plants or when meal prepping for work. 

3. Repetition is Key 

Write them down. Write them again. State them out loud. Read over them! REPEAT! Just do it often, and again be intentional when you do. 

4. Be intentional 

I've been saying this over and over throughout this post "Be intentional." But what does this really mean? When I say it, I mean it as believing in what you affirm, which for some takes practice. If affirmations are new to you, so will being intentional. Keeping an open mind and working hard to believe in the words you are writing and saying is key. With practice and dedication, watch how easily your mind and circumstances begin shifting. 

Now for a bonus tip! 

Lately, I've been adding songs to a playlist that evoke the feelings, put me in the state of mind, or are just blatantly related to my goals. I belt these songs out loud, sometimes off-key, while I'm in the shower and sporadically listen to this playlist throughout my week. Adding to this playlist fills me with so much joy. Give it a try. You too may like it. 

Below I've included a list of affirmations to get you started. Practice saying these to yourself daily and use them to help create your own:

• I am worthy.
• I am love
• I am loving
• I am loved
• I have all that I need to be successful
• I am calm 
• I am peace
• I am beautiful
• I don't let others thoughts or judgments affect me and how I move
• I accept myself 
• I am prioritizing my self-care
• I am protected

Queen Guest Writer Bio:

Rei is a small town gal trying to conquer the world, one blog post at a time. She is a natural hair goddess with a slight skittle obsession and The Food Network addiction.

Whenever she's not reading or writing, you'll find her tending to passengers on either an E-170 or E-175 aircraft as a Flight Attendant. She is a multidimensional being pursuing a Master's of Mental Health Counseling degree from Capella University. She is dedicated to exploring modalities that focus on the whole person, the mental, emotional, spiritual, sexual etc.. Rei is also a First and Second Degree Reiki Healer learn more about Reiki and all things That Gal Rei on her blog ThatGalRei.com

 In June of 2019, she published her first novella, Wishful Thinking

Read more stories written by Rei by following her author page on Amazon

I'm Sorry I Lied...

 

I'm sorry I lied that I was happy when deep down I didn't know how that felt. I didn't understand what it was.

I'm sorry I lied that I liked you when all I wanted was sex.

I'm sorry I pretended to be okay with you not showing up when deep down I wanted to scream at you, call you out and express my disappointment. I didn't tell you because I cared about your feelings.

I'm sorry I lied that I was okay and fine but deep down I was spiraling into a dark hole.

I'm sorry I fooled you with my beautiful smile when deep inside I didn't know what I was smiling about.

I'm sorry I lied that I was okay with the clothes you gave me. I just didn't have the courage to say 'No'.

I'm sorry I lied that I enjoyed sex with you but deep down inside I knew I wanted more and better.

I'm sorry I lied that the reason I left you was because I didn't love you anymore. The truth is I was sexually attracted to your brother who had a better chiseled body. I couldn't imagine how it would break your fragile heart if I slept with him.

I'm sorry I lied that I was okay with the joke when deep down I was scared to express my disdain.

I'm sorry I lied that I didn't need help while smiling yet I was hoping from one man's bed to another so that I could get a place to sleep and food to eat.

I'm sorry I lied that I was fine with compromising my needs and prioritising your interest when all I wanted to say was 'NO'.

By Anonymous.

#personalhealing #healing 

3 Life Lessons To Help You Reach Your Fitness Goals

 By: Liz Hronek

Growing up, I was always athletic.

I swam competitively since I was 5 years old and played soccer since I was 7 years old. And I was also always overweight, not looking like all of my teammates, not feeling like I really fit in. This wasn’t just an internal feeling. This was something that a lot of my peers reminded me of on a consistent basis.

I remember walking into science class in 6th grade, and this boy walking in front of me yells out “Beep Beep Beep….WIDE LOAD COMING THROUGH!” I was devastated. I also had to continue throughout the day as if it didn’t bother me and as if I was tough and emotionless.  

This outer shell, this façade was built up more and more throughout my childhood. I had “thick skin”, my grandma used to tell me… “Sticks and Stones may break your bones, but words can never hurt you”. My grandma was my best friend, she was so strong, and dealt with so much BS…and would do anything for her children and grandchildren. 

Ya’ll, my grandma was an OG! So I grew up thinking that that was what I had to do, stand strong. But I was hurting, I was angry! I thought it was me being angry at those who were being mean to me, but I was more angry with myself than anyone else. Why couldn’t I fit in? Why couldn’t I lose weight? Why couldn’t I be popular?

I hated myself so much… I was eating all kinds of crap. I was drinking, and smoking trying to numb my pain and anger. My self-esteem was so low, that I got into MULTIPLE physically abusive relationships, and a marriage that I wasn’t ready for, which lead to more destruction of my self-esteem and more anger.  

By the time I was a junior in college I was close to 300 pounds, living in my car, working 2 jobs, in a physically abusive relationship… and I was pregnant… BUT didn’t know it until the day that I went into labor. 

Since my “boyfriend” had my car, the university had to call EMS to come take me in an ambulance to the hospital. I WAS SO FREAKING SCARED!

I told the lady that checked me in that she could NOT tell anyone that I was there, and I didn’t tell ANYONE… except for my job so that they could tell my boyfriend to come to the hospital. Even then, I didn’t tell them why I was there.

What in the world was I going to do?! Most people have at least 7-8 months to prepare for a child. Me? I was living in my car and getting beaten on a consistent basis.

Needless to say. God works in mysterious ways. The hospital contacted a local church who brought me SO MUCH stuff for my brand new baby girl. The hospital let me rent a car seat to leave the hospital… This baby WAS supposed to be here!  

Looking back, she saved my life! God knew what He was doing, and it is so AMAZING! I am telling you, I probably would not be alive today had I not had that baby girl. She was the reason for me to do better. I already knew that her dad was not going to be able to give her what she deserved. So, it was time for me to step up!  

I took her to class with me in her car seat, took my exams, and got my degree. Not only did I get a bachelors with a minor, but I was on the deans list!

AND THEN… after I was able to get out of the toxic relationship, I committed to losing weight for the last time! No more back and forth, it was time for me to take care of me, because I had another person to take care of. My little angel!  

Since then, I have lost over 150 pounds and kept it off for 10 years. I have also gotten certified in personal training and nutritional therapy because I want to help others. I want to use my journey and my struggle to help other people eliminate a lot of the mistakes I made, and move forward quickly! 

3 Life lessons I would tell my younger self:

No one is more important than your peace of mind. 

If you always feel drained after interacting with a certain individual… you have the power to leave that situation! Fill your circle with people who lift you up and fill you up.

Do not conform to make others comfortable, be yourself. 

Do not dim your light because it is shining in someone else’s eyes. The ones that love you and are your people will grab some sunglasses and cheer you on!

Loving yourself is not selfish, it is a necessity to love others. 

 We cannot TRULY love anyone else if we do not truly love ourselves. It is ok to be alone, build a bond and confidence in yourself that is unbreakable. THEN… you can go out and love others the way you really want to, the way that they deserved to be loved.

Queen Guest Writer Bio:

Liz is mom of 2 awesome girls and creator of the “unDIET Challenge”. Her goal is to empower women to build the life they truly love. To learn more about Liz, visit Liz Hronek

#selfcare #healingvibes #healingenergy #selflove #fitness #health

AFFECTION OR JUST ATTENTION?

By:

Ilga Wanza

Quite recently, a friend of mine brought up the issue of confusing affection with attention. How many times have we taken someone’s kindness for something more? How many times have we assumed that a simple smile is flirting? How many times have we assumed that long phone calls means we are compatible? Memes have been created just to reflect what is going on. What happened to kindness being just pure or a warm smile being just that, a smile. 

I have been a victim of this and coincidentally two weeks after our discussion, I experienced the same thing but on a larger scale. A friend of mine needed help, lots of it and when I got concerned and offered my all to help him, I discovered that I had been branded the girlfriend role. I wasn’t asked and nobody notified me about these sudden developments. I came to realize that I was part of the family and the heat was turned up when I was asked not to break his heart. Considering the sensitivity of the circumstances, I did not address it immediately and I played along. I mean, you would too. But a few days after playing along, I was made aware of the gravity of my actions and I must admit that guilt came for me. So, was I wrong in being overly concerned for a friend? Should I have acted distant so as not to lead anyone on? Maybe and most of you will think, yes. However, I went back to the discussion I had with my friend. 

We live in a society full of people looking for love everywhere. I don’t know who broke us but here we are. Everything in this world today is translated to mean, ‘I like you’ or ‘I want a future with you’. Nobody ever stops to think that maybe this is a friend who is trying to help. With such a society, we are prone to enter into relationships we have no business being in. I won’t go on and bash people here but I want to show a problem. Ever wondered why most relationships don’t last? Why most don’t make it past the sixth month mark? Well, besides the usual problems like trust and time, it all goes back to the foundation. If the relationship was based on a smile or an act of kindness, what do you expect? 

I believe the reason our society has turned out to be extremely self-centered and mean is because of this. We confuse affection for attention. I would like to stop here and blame Hollywood but I will also put a blame on us. In my story, maybe I should have nipped the problem at the bud but I didn’t because I did not want to hurt people’s feelings. All I had to do was to be honest and clear up the situation. I should have shown what the real position was but I didn’t. And you know, I am not alone in this. Almost every person walking around in the millennial generation has experienced this. We get so deep into some hole that we cannot get out of because everything moved so fast. One time, you are a friend, the next, you are a ‘wife’ or a ‘husband’. 

My advice to everyone is not to confuse attention with affection. It is good to be honest from the start. Ever heard of honesty being the best policy? Now you know, it is not just a proverb. It is a way of life. Make intentions clear from the word go and at all costs do not get involved with the family. You will be handed responsibilities you have never dreamed of, and not in a good way. 

Let your kindness be pure and your smile just that, a smile. 

Queen Guest Writer Bio:

My name is Ilga Wanza

I am 22 years old.

I am a Christian, a writer and a law student. I enjoy reading novels and writing them too. 

My hobbies include taking walks, reading and writing poetry.

Find me on Wattpad at Bold Is Beautiful

#relationships #dating #blogfeature #guestwriter 

What A Man Wants In A Woman

By: Chepkemoi

I met Sam four years ago. He lives on the far end street from my street and I have known him since I was a shy newbie in this Indian invested neighborhood and now, I am a bustling local.

Sam is funny, very witty and he loves wearing this blue and red sweat jacket every time we go together for an early morning run. He normally says that I should get one for myself too because these jackets help to lose fat by causing the core temperature to rise.

A few days ago, I had this very passive fight with Sam because he unapologetically stood me up the day we had agreed to have dinner in the nearby restaurant. Sam is the only man I can argue with, fight with, laugh with, and truly let my heart spill unto.

I can vividly remember the last conversation I had with Sam face to face. We had been running from 6 am and it was just a few minutes past 8 am. "You know no one is waiting for you with a trophy at the end of these tracks, right?" I asked gasping for a huge gulp of air. My heart was almost jumping out of my mouth and I was sweating like a porous pitcher.

"Okay, we shall walk briskly for a few minutes then we break into another insane run." He said jogging in one spot so that I could catch up with him. This son of a gun had not even broken a sweat and his sweat jacket was still zipped up to his neck.

So, we strolled the long way back arguing and talking about love and relationships my arm gently resting on his broad shoulders. Sam is a few inches taller than me and our eyes are level whenever I wear high heeled shoes.

I remember I argued and argued until he paused, looked at me deep in the eyes and said, “When you are a woman, you have to keep yourself beautiful all the time, be soft-spoken and confident around men and they will run tumbling on your feet."

I remember I looked at Sam incredulously, color draining away from cheeks. He had no idea of what he had just said, I could tell from his eyes and his tone- the same passive tone with which a Kenyan would say, “toa kitu kidogo” When they need to take a bribe.

I did not know exactly what to tell Sam at that particular moment. So, I pretended to brush it aside as if I did not hear a thing.

The first thing I planned to do when I got home was to write him a long message on WhatsApp about something, he seemed not to have grasped yet about some women. That some of us wear red dripping lipstick, Burgundy Full Lace Ombre human hair wigs, and high heels for ourselves and not for men at all.

Fast forward to a Friday evening at the gym.

I had just finished doing my legs and glutes and I was stretching as I waited for my friend Liz to finish changing so that we could leave together. I happened to share the space at the backside of the gym with Mose, a tall well-meaning man whom I had met at my previous gym.

Mose struck up a very interesting conversation with me. It was not a normal conversation. Mose assumed that when women go to the gym, it is obvious that they are trying to grow their asses and to seek attention from men.

What was even more interesting is that I had no interest in patrolling the gym while swaying my very small behind. But I am a woman and according to people like Mose, women only do things for the benefit of the men around them.

I often take the cliché statements that are made to us every day as women and turn them into questions that no one has ever answered. Take for example what most of us were taught since childhood, what a man wants in a woman. Thing is, what about what I want as a woman? Do I make a mistake by thinking that we have been taught one side of the story all our lives?

I don’t understand why most women fail to see what is so evident. I love being back home in the village even though I haven’t been there in a while now. I grew up where we were taught to literally serve men like kings and princes. O hail the kings!

I am often impressed by these particular theatrics that even if I am so sick and my brother walked in through the door, I have to drag and fix him something to eat. I often wondered why I had to endure the excruciating pain in my body to serve an energetic high-spirited man. So that I would know how to treat my husband when he finally redeems me by paying several heads of cows and goats was the same answer, I got all the time.

It is true that physical strength was the most important attribute for survival. But that was a thousand years ago. Today, there are other million ways to survive without ever having to rock a giant physique with rippling muscles. We are in a world where intelligence, innovativeness, and creativity has stamped down the physical strength andmasculine ideas.

Maybe we should all blame these fragile egos in our men on the callous traditions? But even if we did that, we have to be willing to go back to the drawing board and model those egos to be gentle and not fragile.

We are in a generation where we must no longer teach our girls this heinous topic: What a man wants in a woman. Rather, we should teach them to be the best they can ever be.

What if we raised both our boys and girls without all the masculine/feminine hullabaloo? What if we taught them love and equality? What if we exposed them to embrace their weaknesses and vulnerabilities and not be afraid of expressing their fears to each other? What if we let both genders know that it is okay to have feelings for the opposite sex and it is also okay to express their desires regardless of their gender? What if we were all feminists?

Queen Guest Writer Bio:

Chepkemoi is a Ghost writer and Content Creator at Upwork. She strongly believes in feminism.

African Parenting

By: Getrude Atieno

As an African child I have been through alot; from how I was raised to my personal relationships and most importantly.. my entire lifestyle. 

 African parenting has positive and negative impacts but the negative outweigh the positive. As a lady from an African home, I have dealt with alot of issues. I was raised in an environment where everyone believes that socializing with a boy or man eventually means having an intimate relationship.

I don't like this notion because it has destroyed most of my relationships. To make it worse.. it's the reason I'm an introvert. In addition, I can’t stand men even away from home; because I don’t want to create the perception of an intimate relationship where there is none. My African upbringing has literally messed me up.

I also live in a society where men are raised to believe that every girl should bleed when they lose their virginity? Who even taught these boys about sex???

We need to revisit our sex education because men are out here demeaning ladies sexually as a result of African parenting. We need to amplify sexual awareness but it's unfortunate that it's a topic that is swept under the carpet in African homes. Let's change our attitude and perception about sex. As we delve into sex education, let's remember to respect God and maintain that sex is for married couples only. That's what I believe.

I come from a place where girls who put on trousers, apply make up and confidently expose their God-given talents are perceived as ill-mannered. 

Poor children... How I wish I could fight for you 😢. That's a topic for another day.

 It is very unfortunate that they judge the wrong people. The evil ones might be dressed in long robes, staying natural and hiding behind the curtains. Our African society is very judgemental especially to the young generation.

Our society doesn’t know that at times they push young people to do the unspeakable for the sake of discovering our identity and independence. Our African homes believe that a girl getting pregnant before marriage is an abomination, a disgrace while nobody talks about the boy who impregnated the girl. Only the girl carries the shame because she carries the evidence too. We might have lost our way somewhere as girls but that doesn’t mean that you should be harsh and mean to us. All we need is guidance.

My society has taught me that an African woman has no voice but I love how empowered women are defying this notion. They are ready to fight for their rights and are going to any length to secure their place in the society. I'm actually glad to see women upgrading and showing men that anything is possible because what a man can do.. a woman can do better. Let's say.. even much better.

Who will save the African children?

 Our parenting methods and upbringing need to change. Our children should grow as all rounded citizens not closeted humans.

Let's talk more on my next blog and in the lyrics of Sauti Sol and Soweto Gospel Choir: "I believe that brighter days are going to come." 

Queen Guest Writer Bio:

Getrude Atieno is an all-rounded lifestyle blogger at Miss Atieno 

#guestbloggers #bloggingqueens #africanchild #parenting 

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In Between Love and Care

By: Ethel Valerie Atieno

Soap operas from the 90s,00’s and 10’s have collectively and successfully collaborated with basic romcoms to help paint pictures of saviour lovers, that lover who walks into your life and somehow fixes it all; the baggage from your family, that one toxic ex that wrecked your heart and all that baggage you cannot see. This lover is supposed to somehow come with a fix-all for all your issues all while trying to love you in between all the fixing.
The reality of this is not only disappointing but a shock that the relationship cannot always weather.
 We live our lives with this idea that the next person to love us has to also come to fix what’s broken. While one might argue that a good relationship helps you build yourself, I would argue that it's unfair to expect a partner or a relationship to be a solution to all your issues and love you at the same time.
The job of self-discovery and self-improvement is a job without a substitute and while you decide to give that job to other people you should consider that they too probably expect the same from you and in between this misunderstanding, there is a love that is neglected that could have worked out if not for the fact that you both were stuck waiting for the other to come to save them.
When I say deal with your issues first, I do not mean that confiding in your partner is wrong or unacceptable, all am asking is you consider for a moment that there is a difference between confiding or asking for advice and coming to a relationship with issues you haven’t fixed and asking your spouse to somehow find a way to help you make sense of what’s going wrong with your life.
“I’ll take care of me, you’ll take care of you and in between, we’ll love each other” were the words of Jenna Galbut.
 Her view on self-love as the gateway to true love is to be the greatest aspiration we can hope to achieve. You cannot take care of anyone else unless you show up with absolute love in your intentions without also holding them responsible for being your own personal Steve Harvey.
 In doing so, you will show the person you love that you are at a point of accepting the kind of love they are willing to give you and that you’re willing to give love without responsibility.




#love #relationships #dating #mentalhealth # self-love #reaponsibility #selfcare

Queen Guest Writer Bio:

Ethel Valerie Atieno 

"I write about things I care about. I care about love, loss and society. I'm a loud mouthed introvert but nothing is louder than my work 😊. You can find my work at My View Through Glass "